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Living With The Questions by Evalina Everidge

Recently, I accompanied a friend to conservation land which is dedicated to green burials. We were there to choose a tree. She had decided to have her eventual ashes optimized to nourish the roots. We spent a lovely afternoon communing with many trees until she found the one for her. As we walked and talked, she expressed the sense of peace that this process gave her, making her eventual death seem less daunting. She felt empowered by thinking through her own death and planning for it. I felt honored to share the experience with her. To me, it is a beautiful example of how conscious aging can help us live with intention. 

Lately, it seems many of my conversations, with both friends and new acquaintances, somehow address the end of life topic. This may be related to the toll an unrelenting pandemic has taken, or to the loss of…  read more


The United States has the largest prison population in the world. What’s that got to do with aging, you may ask. Well, people 50 and older are the fastest growing segment of the US prison population, increasing 25 percent from 2009 to 2013. By contrast, during the same period, the US…  read more

We Can Teach This Old Dog New Tricks

Over the past several months, I’ve had some tight lower back pain which has limited my mobility. After consulting my doctor and stretching, I just couldn’t shake it, so I decided to try something new for me. I’ve started to get a massage every two weeks. My friend Rick is…  read more


It is a poignant time of year and a poignant time of life.

Aging can give us an opportunity to be aware of what we may have previously taken for granted. Aging can give us an opportunity to be more of a human being than a human doing. For me, the…  read more


Five years ago, I scoffed when I heard older people comment about starting to read their local obituary columns. I smirked to myself as I wondered if they had anything better to do with their time. Recently, I was startled by my realization that I’ve been looking at obituaries on…  read more

More Post-Adulthood

Last month, I walked my daughter and her daughter to their first days of school. My first-born started graduate school. My granddaughter started third grade. The three of us walked along, holding hands. After stopping at the elementary school, my daughter headed off to her class on the train. And…  read more


Ten years ago, my sister gave me and my family a calendar. It is 183 pieces of 2-sided paper sitting in a plastic frame. Each page has a day/date/month/year on both sides. Every morning we place the front piece of paper to the back of the pile, revealing the next…  read more


A few weeks ago, my granddaughter and I took a summertime walk to the local market. On the way home, the afternoon sun was at our back. In front of me I saw the shadow of an 8-year-old girl and her grandfather holding hands as they walked.

I was momentarily surprised…  read more


I was just this side of asleep. I was lying in bed, early morning, remembering my just-waking thoughts.

I had realized two really good points regarding a thorny concept I’d been pondering for weeks. It was a breakthrough, a really good fit and very clarifying for me. Even at that early…  read more


Three days ago, I had a face-to-face meeting with another person for the first time in over a year. Two days ago, I had coffee on my front porch with a friend for the first time in over a year. Yesterday, accompanied by my daughter, I went shopping at Costco…  read more


Aging from the heart doesn’t happen to everyone, but it can. I think it’s happening to me.

I didn’t have any negative reaction after I got my first Covid-19 vaccination. I kept hearing rumblings about possible intense side-effects after the second shot, especially if the first went smoothly. Being aware helped…  read more

Let’s Celebrate That We Even Get To Age

There are six myths about old age: 1.That it’s a disease, a disaster 2.That we are mindless 3.That we are sexless 4.That we are useless 5.That we are powerless 6.That we are all alike

                                                                                                Maggie Kuhn



I suspect that most of us don’t think about our older-selves-to-be in very much detail,…  read more

Not So New Normal?

We’re trying to get through this with a vaccine without truly exploring our soul.

                                                                         Mike Osterholm


We have to take off our shoes and socks and walk in the dirt of 2020. Dig into it with our toes. Feel it give a bit under our feet.

You want to go back to…  read more

Let’s Refuse To Be Invisible

“The deceivers started with self-deception…No matter how large the tissue of falsehood that an experienced liar has to offer it will never be large enough…to cover the immensity of factuality.”    

Hannah Arendt


This coming Friday morning at 10:00 am, please join us online for a free showing of the documentary Olympia. With…  read more

All Of Us Artists?

To those of us in our last third of life, we’ve both been here before and we’ve never seen times like these.

You may think I’m referring to the deep political polarization surrounding the impending election, or the normal-changing worldwide pandemic, or perhaps the global anti-racism protests, or possibly the avalanching…  read more

Thank you, Mr. Rogers

Last week I watched A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood, starring Tom Hanks as the inimitable Mr. Rogers. The film is not so much about Fred Rogers as it is about his relationship with a journalist assigned to profile the children’s TV personality for Esquire magazine. Two of my main…  read more


In my recent blog post titled “scared and pissed off”, I misattributed a quote from the movie ‘Alive Inside’. It was spoken by the director, Michael Rossato-Bennett, not by Dr. Bill Thomas. I apologize to Michael Rossato-Bennett and for any confusion that may have resulted.

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“There is a touch that takes a lifetime to achieve. Locking this touch away is like stripping from ourselves part of being human.”

Michael Rossato-Bennett, from the movie Alive Inside


A few weeks ago, the Wabi Sabi Film Festival presented a free digital screening of the movie Alive Inside. It was a…  read more



The external conditions of pandemic, along with the natural process of aging, have caused many of us to gain some insight into and appreciation for what we’ve taken for granted, large and very small. I woke up thinking about the lyrics to “Big Yellow Taxi”,…  read more


“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

                                                                                   Viktor Frankl


Last week I noticed I was running low on shaving cream. In the old days – and I don’t mean the 60’s – I would have tucked that away in the back of…  read more

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